Space vs time – Relationships


So, a lot of the time when two people have been in a relationship for a while and it hasn’t been working, there is eventually the request for space. Strangely enough, the more time you have spent together, the easier it is for the unhappier one in the relationship to ask for space. Usually, one asks for space in a relationship because they believe that they either need time away for themselves to figure out and sort out what is going wrong for them personally, or they request space because they believe it will either solve what is going wrong with their relationship, or fix it. Either way, this is where it becomes space vs. time. Either way, as the recipient of the space, you are aware that it will take a certain amount of time before they make a decision. It becomes a waiting game and you are depending on the other person’s emotions and logical thinking to make a decision. In the meantime, all you can do is focus on yourself. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, however.
During the time you will both be having space away from each other, there are a few things you can do to try and repair the relationship and also repair yourself. The fact is, leaving the other person alone for a while is the best thing for both of you, as you can allow the other to have as much time and space as they feel they need to have, and give them time to miss you. In the meantime, you can do practical things to make you feel better about yourself, or just to catch up on lost time you otherwise weren’t able to do.
A good example of this for most people when they find more time outside of a relationship is to go to the gym and start to either get healthier, or find a healthier view on how they look at themselves. After going to the gym for a month or so, you will find that not only do you feel better about yourself and healthier physically, but you will be mentally healthier after you find that better outlook on yourself. Another way to repair yourself while going through space is to read up on a subject you enjoy and learn new things. You will find that developing your mental skills such as reading, memory or something like learning a new language will make you feel tons better, due to the stimulation you will receive mentally.
Something else that also helps professionals in a career or entrepreneurs is getting yourself completely involved in your line of work. While some people will swear by the fact that it is actually more mentally draining and damaging, others see it as a way to achieve the goals that you have in life a lot simpler and easier by putting themselves completely into their own work. You will be able to set yourself personal aims, or if you work in a company or industry that is target driven, using your drive to complete those targets are beneficial for your own self-esteem and your career goals. As an entrepreneur, setting yourself that goal is very beneficial for your own business, and you will find that the financial rewards that are involved in doing this will make you feel a lot better in the long run.
Time can be a killer when you are going through space in a relationship if you let it be. Otherwise, the time that you have away can be one of the biggest opportunities in your life. Some things can always be a positive if you let it be one, and in this occasion time away from a damaged relationship that needs healing is the best thing for everyone that is involved. If you are currently going through this situation yourself, just remember that the time away can be one of the best things for you in the long run and make sure that you take ample opportunity of it.

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